104 Relinquishing

We want what we want when we want it, and we want others to be happy when we get it. We may pray earnestly God gives us what we want and feel disappointed when we do not receive it in our time frame. We might get insistent and demanding with God. In these times we need to relinquish control to God.

He withdrew about a stone’s throw beyond them, knelt down and prayed, “Father, if You are willing, take this cup from Me; yet, not my will, but Yours be done.” Luke 22:41

Relinquishing prayer does not mean we let go of all our desires. Rather, we pray for what we want in an attitude of humility, not demanding God to grant our request, but asking for our heart’s desire and leaving the answer to God.

Today I read about Dorrie, a Filipino young woman who exemplified relinquishing prayer. She took a ride on the ship Christopher. A furious storm sank the ship which had no life-boats and far too few life-vests. Dorrie swam poorly and had no life-vest. She clung to a piece of floating wood from the ship. After sinking and returning to the surface three times, she saw a large fire extinguisher floating at her. She held it in one hand and the wood in the other. The storm and waves had separated her from others. She sung to the Lord as night approached and prayed. She saw two bras and had a sudden insight to use them to tie together the wood and extinguisher. She then leaned upon them. By early morning she was exhausted and dehydrated. When a sudden rain fell, she said, “Thank you, Jesus!” and drank it. After another three hours she was so weak that she prayed, “Lord, I’m ready to die in the sea to be with You, but I’m also ready to live to serve You. You choose, Lord; Your will be done.” Two carrots floated to her. She received a bit of strength from eating them. Half an hour later, seventeen hours after the ship sank, she was rescued.*

Relinquishing prayer involves opening our hands rather than grasping for what we want. We hold loosely the things we want and allow God to work in our hearts as well as our circumstances. We present our requests to God not knowing how He will answer. While waiting, we thank Him for His goodness to us and find “the peace that surpasses understanding.” (Philippians 4:7)

Receiving His peace,

Noah Woodrich

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*Robert Doorn, The Filipinos Are Coming! pp. 39-41


103 Asking

Shame says not to ask for what we want. Humility gives us permission to ask. We are not acting in humility when we do not ask God for what we want. We need to ask God before asking anyone else in order to keep God first in our lives. We need to remember that He is the source of all good things. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, Who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17

“You may ask Me for anything in My Name, and I will do it.” John 14:14

We try to prove ourselves by making our own way in this world. We need to acknowledge our dependence on God. In owning our need for Him, we let go of our perfectionism. Pretending that we can do it all on our own involves denial. When we try on our own to figure out all the solutions to our problems, we weary our souls.

God knows more than we ever could about every minute detail of our lives. He commands us to trust Him and give Him first place in our lives. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5)

We think we are bothering God when we ask Him for too many things. We think we are humble when we don’t ask for help for some things, but in not asking, we put ourselves back on our own resources and strength. We humble ourselves when we trust Him.

Striving to ask,

Noah Woodrich

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102 Humility Not Shame

I last blogged in June of 2014. I have been working through a lot of things, especially moving out of our apartment last year. I finally decided to take a year off in keeping with Exodus 23:10-11, “For six years you are to sow your fields and harvest the crops, but during the seventh year let the land lie unplowed and unused.” Some people call this the Shemitah year. That occurred from September 2014 to September 2015. Lately, I have been taking care of Marguex, and we are working through buying a house, so still very busy. I want to start blogging again and am taking the time to do this. Here is the first of what hopefully will be a long series of more blogs. Thanks for being patient.

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom Proverbs 11:2

Last time I wrote about magic-bullet prayer. We cannot make God do our bidding. We simply lay our requests before Him and trust Him with the answers. We need to persist in prayer in humility, not demanding our way with God. Humility involves surrendering our will to God’s will.

Yet, we need to take care of ourselves. We need to provide for our needs and desires. We need to assert ourselves, right? Modern psychology certainly would back all these statements. However, I find the Bible to take a very different approach. According to the Bible, we need to humble ourselves before God, and He will provide for us.

To humble ourselves, we need to cast our cares upon God in trusting obedience. We humbly look to Him to provide for all of our needs and even to decide what it is we really need. We accept His will for our lives and lay aside our selfishness and selfish ambition.

To humble ourselves may seem like shame. We need to learn the difference. In humility we acknowledge our limitations before the Almighty God. In shame we say that we are less than others. Shame leads to pride, not humility. We can humble ourselves without rejecting ourselves. Rejecting ourselves exhibits pride because we claim to have some authority to decide whether or not we are acceptable. God has already accepted us in His own dear Son Whom He loves!

For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted. Luke 1:14

God wants us to humble ourselves so that He can exalt us. Humility is not about making ourselves nothing, but about receiving the gift of what God thinks about us. Shame and humility are not the same thing. We need ongoing revelation on this to discern the difference.

Looking for His ongoing revelation,

Noah Woodrich

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101 Magic Bullet Prayer

Many times in our lives we hope for “magic bullet” prayers which guarantee God would grant our requests. For example, we cry, “Papa, please help my car to start.” You know I need to get to work on time. You command me to work, and where You guide, You provide, so make it start right now! I claim victory in Jesus’ name!” If we could just say the right words and have deep enough faith He would give us what we want.

Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”   II Corinthians 12:8-9

If God always said, “Yes,” to our magic bullet prayers, we would feel compelled to pray over every difficulty we hear until we found the “magic bullet” that would finally convince God to solve every problem to our satisfaction. The responsibility for the problems of family, friends and even the world would weigh on us. Intense pressure would obligate us to find those just right prayers to achieve our view of “success”.

This sounds like perfectionism.

If we could persuade God to always say “Yes,” then we could manipulate God. To think we have this power over Him involves great pride. Continuing for some time in this thought, we would find ourselves trying to manage the whole world. That job is already taken.

“With great power comes great responsibility.” If we knew that with just the right prayer we could get a “Yes,” we would continually feel guilty for not spending all our time looking for “magic bullet” prayers. We would feel a severe demand to find that “magic bullet.”

God reigns over the universe, and He is not giving His job away. He will decide how to answer our prayers. Thank God for that! We are not in charge, He is. It would be “Heaven” in our view if we could get all our desires fulfilled. Heaven will be here—in God’s timing.

I thank God for the times He has denied my requests. That reminds me that I am not responsible for everything. God is in charge and that for our good.

Many of us have prayed hard and long for our hearts’ desires. We use every prayer we can think to apply to these situations. We claim God’s goodness and His power, and still, “No,” or, “Not yet,” is the answer. We cannot rush God. Any, “No,” except those with a time element, could be a, “Not yet.”

In His word, God says, “I will…” He will cause it to happen. We do not have the power to make God change the world. When we let God be the One in charge, we relieve ourselves of a burden that is not ours to bear. We give responsibility back to God by praying relinquishment. It may sound like this, “Father, I give this issue over to You, trusting in You to work Your will in this situation.”

Learning to accept my limitations in humility,

Noah Woodrich

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100 Receiving Prayer

Perfectionism afflicts us emotionally and mentally as a disease. Disease is dis-ease and uneasiness as well as dysfunctionality. Perfectionism wars against peace and rest. It allows no comfort nor any type of easing of pain. Perfectionism causes much of our pain.

Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord. James 5:14

Other people will pray for us if we ask. This becomes necessary for our healing and growth. Perfectionism itself blinds us to our own perfectionistic behaviors. In fact, those very behaviors and the rewards we reap from them reinforce our perfectionistic belief systems.

We cannot see what others plainly see. The nearness of our own problems prevents us from seeing them clearly, like trying to focus on one’s own nose. Others provide a mirror to see our reflection. Further, they pray for us in ways which we would not even think to pray.

Receiving prayer is humbling. Yea! (Throw your arms up in the air and shout!) We get to humble ourselves by asking for prayer. We make ourselves vulnerable when sharing such deep issues. Also, we ask for help in asking for prayer. We resist asking because we are proud. Is losing our pride such a bad thing? Let us let go of pride and ask for prayer.

Whom can we ask? Our churches or bible studies have people who can pray for us. Many churches have prayer teams during services and prayer ministries where an appointment for prayer can be made. The website or information line may say how to receive prayer. We can definitely ask friends, family or co-workers in our lives to pray.

Those safe people who pray for us do so in ways we do not think to pray. As an added benefit, they will agree with us in our own prayers for freedom from perfectionism. Our becoming free from perfectionism will benefit those around us.

Yes, asking for prayer is humbling. Remember, humbling ourselves helps to free us from pride, shame and perfectionism. Either we humble ourselves, or we will be humbled.

Blessed and calling for more,

Noah Woodrich

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99 Prayer

I confess it, I am proud. Moreover, I am proud of being proud. As bad as pride is, I find myself unwilling to let go of it. I want to be proud. I am incredibly self-idealistic and grandiose. I have the answers to life’s struggles; if only people would listen to me, I could solve their problems, or so I think. Yes, this is incorrect. In reality I am not able to heal myself, much less help others.

I sought God about my resistance to humbling myself and about how proud I am. I asked for several months, “How do I humble myself? I don’t want to!” I got the impression that I was to pray that He would help me to humble myself. I need to humble myself to even be able to ask God to help me humble myself.

Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. Hebrews 4:16

I started with a simple prayer, “God help me to humble myself.” I found this was not quite enough. I needed to cry out to Him. I realized that I was weak and unable to humble myself and cried out from the depths of my heart, “God have mercy on me a sinner! I am so proud, please forgive me! Help me to humble myself, Lord! I can’t do this on my own. I need your help. HELP!!!”

The idea I want to convey is that we need to pray from our hearts. How do we feel when we are unable to humble ourselves? What do we hear from God about our inability to humble ourselves and our lack of humility? Psalm 139 could be a starting place to look for insight on this. This powerful Psalm taught me how to pray for myself.

Jesus told His disciples…that they should always pray and not give up.Luke 18:1

We need to keep praying, especially if we see no ready answers because we will not totally be free until Heaven. Our pride separates us from God. We need to pray for the rest of our lives for humility. We will see progress. We will find our pride diminishing. We need to humble ourselves before Him in order to receive His mercy. Thank God, His grace enables us to come to Him!

The Lord taught us to pray, “Forgive us our sin”, because we constantly need forgiveness. Also, He said, “Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil”, we need to be delivered from the temptation to pride. We have made pride and perfectionism into habits. We need to break those habits. We can only do so with God’s power.

“Because he loves Me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.” Psalm 91:14-15

Psalm 91 is such a powerful passage! It tells of God’s wonderful promises to protect and deliver.

Dwelling under the shelter of the Most High,

Noah Woodrich

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98 Not an Option

Either we humble ourselves, or we will be humbled. Humbling ourselves is the better option.

For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted. Luke 18:14

Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all.” Mark 10:42-44

James and John requested to be next to Jesus in the Kingdom of God. The rest of the disciples reacted to James and John’s request in a typically human manner. In a like manner, we seek to be elevated over others. We also resent those over us. How peculiar, we resent those who succeed but if we were to succeed, we would think we deserved our success and others should be glad for us. We cling to this double standard. We wish ourselves fortune and others failure. We won’t complain when we get what is better. We only say, “That’s not fair!” when others get something better than we do.

How about this: The next time we get some special benefit, say, “It’s not fair that I received this special privilege that others didn’t receive!” Let’s try it now, “It’s not fair that I get to live in the first world while others are living in destitute poverty all around the world! It’s not fair that I am saved while others are going to hell. It’s not fair that I get to experience God’s love while others know nothing about it! I don’t deserve all the special privileges I am receiving!”

Complaining, “It’s not fair,” about receiving some benefit goes against our natural tendencies. Our flesh is naturally selfish. We want what we want when we want it, and we want others to be happy about it. “Me! Me! Me!” is the cry of our hearts. Telling ourselves to be humble is like teaching a cat to do tricks. We cannot make ourselves humble. Neither can others make us humble because that would be shaming.

“He who humbles himself…” How then do we humble ourselves? We definitely need God’s help in the process, and the great thing is we can ask for His help. This is in itself an act of humbling ourselves before Him. I hope to talk about prayer and God’s nature in upcoming posts.

Prayerfully Yours,

Noah Woodrich

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