We want what we want when we want it, and we want others to be happy when we get it. We may pray earnestly God gives us what we want and feel disappointed when we do not receive it in our time frame. We might get insistent and demanding with God. In these times we need to relinquish control to God.
He withdrew about a stone’s throw beyond them, knelt down and prayed, “Father, if You are willing, take this cup from Me; yet, not my will, but Yours be done.” Luke 22:41
Relinquishing prayer does not mean we let go of all our desires. Rather, we pray for what we want in an attitude of humility, not demanding God to grant our request, but asking for our heart’s desire and leaving the answer to God.
Today I read about Dorrie, a Filipino young woman who exemplified relinquishing prayer. She took a ride on the ship Christopher. A furious storm sank the ship which had no life-boats and far too few life-vests. Dorrie swam poorly and had no life-vest. She clung to a piece of floating wood from the ship. After sinking and returning to the surface three times, she saw a large fire extinguisher floating at her. She held it in one hand and the wood in the other. The storm and waves had separated her from others. She sung to the Lord as night approached and prayed. She saw two bras and had a sudden insight to use them to tie together the wood and extinguisher. She then leaned upon them. By early morning she was exhausted and dehydrated. When a sudden rain fell, she said, “Thank you, Jesus!” and drank it. After another three hours she was so weak that she prayed, “Lord, I’m ready to die in the sea to be with You, but I’m also ready to live to serve You. You choose, Lord; Your will be done.” Two carrots floated to her. She received a bit of strength from eating them. Half an hour later, seventeen hours after the ship sank, she was rescued.*
Relinquishing prayer involves opening our hands rather than grasping for what we want. We hold loosely the things we want and allow God to work in our hearts as well as our circumstances. We present our requests to God not knowing how He will answer. While waiting, we thank Him for His goodness to us and find “the peace that surpasses understanding.” (Philippians 4:7)
Receiving His peace,
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*Robert Doorn, The Filipinos Are Coming! pp. 39-41
I last blogged in June of 2014. I have been working through a lot of things, especially moving out of our apartment last year. I finally decided to take a year off in keeping with Exodus 23:10-11, “For six years you are to sow your fields and harvest the crops, but during the seventh year let the land lie unplowed and unused.” Some people call this the Shemitah year. That occurred from September 2014 to September 2015. Lately, I have been taking care of Marguex, and we are working through buying a house, so still very busy. I want to start blogging again and am taking the time to do this. Here is the first of what hopefully will be a long series of more blogs. Thanks for being patient.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom Proverbs 11:2
Last time I wrote about magic-bullet prayer. We cannot make God do our bidding. We simply lay our requests before Him and trust Him with the answers. We need to persist in prayer in humility, not demanding our way with God. Humility involves surrendering our will to God’s will.
Yet, we need to take care of ourselves. We need to provide for our needs and desires. We need to assert ourselves, right? Modern psychology certainly would back all these statements. However, I find the Bible to take a very different approach. According to the Bible, we need to humble ourselves before God, and He will provide for us.
To humble ourselves, we need to cast our cares upon God in trusting obedience. We humbly look to Him to provide for all of our needs and even to decide what it is we really need. We accept His will for our lives and lay aside our selfishness and selfish ambition.
To humble ourselves may seem like shame. We need to learn the difference. In humility we acknowledge our limitations before the Almighty God. In shame we say that we are less than others. Shame leads to pride, not humility. We can humble ourselves without rejecting ourselves. Rejecting ourselves exhibits pride because we claim to have some authority to decide whether or not we are acceptable. God has already accepted us in His own dear Son Whom He loves!
For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted. Luke 1:14
God wants us to humble ourselves so that He can exalt us. Humility is not about making ourselves nothing, but about receiving the gift of what God thinks about us. Shame and humility are not the same thing. We need ongoing revelation on this to discern the difference.
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The ninth secret to finding humility is asking for help.
March 28, 2013 was a day to remember. I took our scooter out for a ride. I hadn’t ridden it for a month or so and had some trouble starting it, but eventually got it going. While I was out, I figured I could drop off a couple of bills at the post office. I put the envelopes inside the seat compartment. This necessitated that I turn the scooter off in order to retrieve them. After I deposited the bills in the mailbox I tried to start the scooter again with no success. Initially, it turned over, but eventually stopped and wouldn’t even turn over. I guessed it was a combination of low battery and problem with the starter.
I decided to push it home where we had a battery charger. It was a beautiful day, in sharp contrast to the previous week which was snowy and cold. The ground was fairly level for a long way (for those familiar with Kansas City, I was on the Kansas side). As I crossed the state line I was dreading the thought of pushing it up larger hills on the Missouri side. I made it quite a way up the first hill and, out of desperation, tried to start it again. The engine turned over a couple of times, and then stopped. I noticed that my wife had called. I called her back and we prayed it would start. Still no go. I tried the trick of starting it by going downhill. That did not work. I was talking to my wife again, letting her know what was happening. She told me later she was crying out to God for me at this point when someone came walking towards me holding a gas can. I told him that it was a problem with the starter. He offered to jump-start it. I told him that I didn’t think it would work. I set my mind on pushing it home even though I was very tired. My wife was listening to this whole conversation. She told me that she and our neighbors had prayed that someone would help me. She reminded me of the person on the roof of a house in a flood who told the rescue boat that God was going to take care of him.
I pushed my scooter into the man’s driveway. He had jumper cables, and we connected the batteries. The scooter started right away!
“Ask, and it will be given to you….” Matthew 7:7
Do you often refuse help, like I was doing? In my perfectionism I was too proud to accept help, thought I could do it myself without any help and thought that if I needed help I would be displaying weakness. We want to think we have it all together and are not needy. “No thanks,” we say, “I can handle it.” Except, the fact is, everyone needs to ask and receive help. We are broken creatures, even though we don’t want to admit it. We do need help. We need God’s help. He often sends help by way of people.
Learning to humble myself (which is better than the alternative),
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