We seek refuge in perfectionism to protect our self-esteem, self-worth, self-image and identity. If we base identity on performance, we make ourselves vulnerable to pain and regret when our performance does not match our expectations. By our perfectionism we seek to protect ourselves from pain, but instead we cause ourselves more pain. We need to relinquish perfectionism to find a better refuge. The Lord creates the best refuge. Let’s trust Him rather than our own devises.
The salvation of the righteous comes from the Lord; he is their stronghold in time of trouble. The Lord helps them and delivers them; he delivers them from the wicked and saves them, because they take refuge in him. Psalm 37:39-40
Our relationship with the Lord depends on our performance, but rather on His unmerited love and favor. “The Lord protects the simplehearted; when I was in great need, he saved me.” (Psalm 116:6) Viewed from perfectionism, that verse seems too good to be true. We think that life is way too complex for us to be simplehearted. We try to solve all our problems with our own wisdom rather than simply trusting the Lord.
To be simplehearted, we need to let go of our perfectionism and embrace the Lord’s goodness to us. As the song says, “His love is amazing, steady and unchanging.” It seems too good to be true. Yet, we can receive it in faith.
Marguex gave me this thought: When we belong in God, then we belong no matter where we are. We may be excluded by some group at some point in time, but we still belong to God, and His opinion of us is the one that really matters.
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1
Enjoying my Savior’s help and protection,
Living for the glory of God by grace received through faith in the Messiah, the Word of God made flesh.
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