Secret number 15 to finding humility is to yield an argument.
I do nothing on My own, but speak just what the Father has taught Me…I always do what pleases Him. John 8:28-29
We think we know the right way to do things. When others ask us to do something their way, we balk. We don’t want to do it a different way. We resist because we have developed a system of rules for how to cope with life. Anybody who requests us to do something that violates one of these rules is obviously wrong, mistaken and inadequate. We have become accustomed to others yielding to us. Thinking they should yield to us shows us our pride. We think we know better than others. When we encounter those who will not yield, we judge them as foolish for not seeing our wisdom.
At these times, we need to remember Jesus words in Matthew 7:3-5, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Our perfectionism can clash with others’ perfectionism. When we argue about what is right and correct, our rules can conflict other people’s rules. At these times, we can apply this secret and yield the point. Before a question becomes an argument, we can learn to yield. We humble ourselves in this way. We learn not to insist on our own way.
We ask, “But what if this point is important?” Does it really matter? Will anyone die as a result? Really? We need humility to acknowledge our rules are flawed. We tend to go to the worst-case scenario and imagine terrible consequences if they are not followed.
An example of needing humility is as follows: If one believes that buying generic products whenever possible is what everyone should do, maybe making exceptions when the name brand is only a few cents more than the generic or there is a significant quality difference, then there is an opportunity for humbling oneself. Once upon a time, I made myself buy a certain type of apple even though I did not like them because they were the cheapest apple available. I learned not to buy apples because I did not like that brand of apple! Years later, I got married and Marguex picked out “expensive” apples. I was shocked! What?! This other type of apple is so much cheaper! This was a lesson I finally got; these apples were cheaper because people did not like their taste.
Asking forgiveness for argumentativeness,
Noah Woodrich (& Marguex, too)
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