81 Seeking to UnderstandPosted: November 14, 2013
Secret number 13 to finding humility is seeking to understand rather than to be understood.
FYI, the numbers on these secrets are arbitrary. They are not in order of importance, although I see the first two, weakness and worship, as especially key. I have sought to put them in some kind of order as far as how they relate to one another, such as putting thankfulness after receiving gifts. I hope this is sheds some light and is “understandable”. :)
Before his downfall a man’s heart is proud, but humility comes before honor. He who answers before listening—that is his folly and his shame. Proverbs 18:12-13
We like feeling understood. That is understandable. We also have ideas that need to be heard by others and they have ideas we need to hear. Our tendency, however, is first to seek to be heard and wait to hear others until later. Let’s consider reversing that order—listen first and understand before seeking to be understood. To so do on a consistent basis is humbling. We know that our ideas are good. Let us humble ourselves and consider others’ ideas just as important as our own.
Some of you may find it odd that I would even be saying this, “Of course other people’s ideas are as valid as my own!” Let me tell you, part of me really believes I have the best ideas around. Yes, that is grandiose and self-idealistic to think that God has bestowed on me, Phil Sigafus an extra special amount of wisdom and insight. I hate even to admit it, yet I need to follow my own advice and confess (see the earlier humbling technique—confession). I confess that I am proud. God, please have mercy on me, a sinner!
So what do you think? Now search your heart. Do you secretly think that you have all the answers? Do you wish that people would be silent, sit at your feet in wonderment and awe and just listen to you? If they did and followed your sage advice, they would have better lives. In fact, the whole world would be a better place if you were in charge, right?
Not to diminish what you know. You do have a lot of good ideas. Just remember, other people have good ideas, too.
I have a tendency to think very highly of myself. I see that as I write these blogs. Again, I recommend that you hold what I am saying loosely. Allow God to speak to your heart.
From someone with a lot to say, and learning not to be proud of it,
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