72 ConfessionPosted: August 30, 2013
The fourth secret to finding humility is confession.
Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. James 5:16
Confession is humbling, especially for those of us who deal with perfectionism. That’s why we hate the thought of it so much. We don’t want to admit to ourselves that we have made a mistake, much less anyone else. Confessing sin stretches our faith and powerfully opens our hearts to God through humility. We need to humble ourselves in confession. (James 4:8-10)
What do we need to confess? We can confess anything which holds us in guilt—big things, little things, old or new. Whatever may come to mind right now may be a subject matter for confession. Confession gives us the opportunity to let go of a burden. Even the seemingly most insignificant thing would be worth confessing if it would rid us of guilt.
But, what if we are not sure that what we did or thought really was sin? We find that out in the process. When we confess to God or one of His children, we can get valuable feedback. This will clarify if what we did is truly wrong and we can get wisdom on how to reconcile or make restitution. In addition, the one to whom we confess can declare us forgiven and thereby thwart the enemy’s attempts to condemn us later for a matter that has already been resolved. What we did may not be wrong in a general sense but something about how we went about it at the time may have hurt someone in the process. Even if not totally at fault, we can still offer a confession for our part, even if we only had 1% of the responsibility.
As I have stated before, we need safe people to whom we do the process of confession. Safe people speak the truth in love and mercy. If a person we know says that nothing we do is wrong or that we don’t need to confess, they are not speaking truth. If people react to our confession with shame and condemnation, they do not love nor can they give us the mercy needed to walk out our process of restoration with God. There are people who speak truth in love. We need to spend time with believers. We can begin this process of confession by risking something small in order to learn if a person is safe or not. This assumes we know the person; we don’t divulge our life story on the first meeting. Trust takes time to develop.
At some point, however, we need to take the leap and just do it, just confess and do it quickly. In our perfectionism, we procrastinate. We put off anything we don’t like. We need to push through our resistance. We need to put to death our pride. Confession helps us with this. Yes, it is humbling. This is good. Pushing through the fear of being humiliated in order to make a confession rewards us with freedom and true humility. We feel much better afterwards.
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