45 Frozen EmotionsPosted: December 12, 2012
When we rest we find awareness of our deep thoughts and feelings. When we have pain and unresolved issues, we often stay busy to numb ourselves from them. Busyness wars against our spiritual life. As we allow thoughts and feelings about our pain and issues to surface, we need to open ourselves to hear from God. We need to invite Him into the deep places of our hearts. In the place of being still, we cry out to God and receive His Spirit.
Surely, You desire truth in the inner parts; You teach me wisdom in the inmost place. …Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from Your presence or take Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me. Psalm 51:6, 10-12
When we shut down our emotions, we block the Holy Spirit. Jesus, through His Holy Spirit, is a Gentleman. He knocks at the door of our hearts, but doesn’t enter unless invited. (Rev. 3:20) When we invite the Holy Spirit to go into the recesses of our hearts, we need to be open to experiencing His comfort and attending emotions. We may want to numb or ignore our emotions. These emotions can become “frozen” when we choose to barricade them from our awareness. As children we learned this strategy to cope with the unruliness of our emotions. The barricades led us to numb or disregard our emotions. However, God has given us our emotions to work through problems. Ignoring emotions does not make them go away. Our emotions are a part of us and not separable from the rest of our being.
When we become aware or present to our emotions we give God access to them. We cannot heal ourselves, but we can block healing. We want to experience joy, but we need to work through pain to get to joy. At times we will experience pain followed by times of joy and release. God does not hold us in pain. We might hold ourselves in pain. He wants to heal us. We find support from God as we cry out to Him. Moreover, we can find people who support us. They can help us discover new ways to break through our barricades, experience our emotions and then manage them. We need support from safe people. We cannot heal alone. We trust and depend on God alone and receive people only as servants from His hand.
As an example, after years of opening myself to God’s healing, I still had frozen emotions. I acted in anger without feeling it. With encouragement, I attended an anger management class led by a safe teacher (a safe person and servant from God’s hand). In an exercise from the class (STOP exercise, a helpful tool), I found that I did have anger! Over the years, I continued the exercise and discovered other deep emotions and their roots. As I heard God speaking His love over me, He worked a deeper healing within my heart.
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