15 ResistancePosted: March 10, 2012
If you have spent any time owning and letting go (from the last two posts), then you will probably have encountered resistance within yourself. Owning and letting go require change and bring us into deep heart issues. Our actions spring from the heart, as Jesus said in Matthew. Tryingto change behavior does no good if our hearts are not changed. Yet our hearts resist change. Even when we feel intense pain, our hearts would rather not change because the known pain feels safer than the unknown change. The old way provides an unhappy settledness. Pain motivates change. Yet, at some point, we need to decide to change.
How then do we overcome resistance once we decide to make lasting change in our lives? We utilize the enabling power of the Holy Spirit (II Peter 1:3). Yielding to the Holy Spirit involves dying to a habit or way of thinking. Initially, this letting go can involve even more pain than the pain that motivated us to make a change. We need to move forward believing that the change will ultimately result in less pain and a more obedient and rested life. He will bring comfort to us in our pain (Matthew 5:4). To overcome resistance, we need to trust God’s leading. We need to believe He knows better than we do what is in our ultimate good.
So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law, but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war with the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. Romans 7:21-23
Resolving our issues involves letting go of our resistance to change. The process can feel like an internal battle and it takes time. We may need to struggle with deep issues for years. Unresolved questions from our childhood originated our deep issues. We needed to know that someone loved us. Wondering if no one did led us to perfectionism. Perfectionism became the way we protected ourselves against feeling unloved. That self-protection is the root of resistance. Having been wounded when vulnerable, we shielded of our hearts. This self-protective shell may have defended us as children but it no longer works.
As we continue to experience pain and shame in our process of healing, we continue to resist the process of letting go. We need to allow ourselves to feel the emotional pain in order to heal. When we cry out to God, He helps us begin to deal with this pain. We realize our need for the comfort of the Holy Spirit–the Comforter (John 14).
Perfectionism demands quick solutions. We need to give ourselves grace as we struggle to heal and grow. God is healing us. He will grow us. He will work out our sanctification. “Through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.” (Romans 8:2)
Learning to let go of resistance,
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