12 ProcessPosted: March 10, 2012
This is our twelfth post. We have experienced God’s blessing in writing them. I hope that you have been blessed in reading them. To that end, I request that you pray before or as you read each e-letter. None of these e-letters mean anything without God’s blessing.
Healing and growth consists of a long journey with many steps. Each step leads us closer to being Christ-like. We will not reach the end of our journey or arrive there until Heaven. Another word for journey is process. This process of healing and growth takes time; yes, even the rest of our lives. Perfectionism expects instant success and that we do things right the first time. We expect ourselves to “know what we know before we know it”. From our experience we know that instant success is not always possible, but those of us who struggle with perfectionism still feel this self-imposed expectation.
Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead. Philippians 3:12-13
Even the Apostle Paul did not reach perfection in this life! He recognized his need to grow and lack of perfection. “Straining toward what is ahead” implies exerting great effort. We know that life presents many problems, but perfectionism gives us the false message that we should easily master any challenge we undertake. We need to counter this false message with truth. Life produces struggle. Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble”. (John 16:33)
We need to give ourselves permission to struggle and not expect ourselves to be at some non-existent there. We are works in progress. Remember Paul’s words that he was not perfect and was “straining toward what is ahead”. We are in process of being healed and grown. It’s okay that we are not finished yet. As Brennan Manning says, “God loves us as we are and not as we should be.”
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